The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex

Sari Locker, Alpha

ISBN:0028629027, Edition: 1, 1999-04-22

Price: $18.95

CONTENTS

Part 1: Say Yes to Amazing Sex 1

1 Sexuality Today 3

Are You Sex Savvy? 4

From Sexual Revolution to Sexual Evolution 7

Do Sex Trends Exist? 8

Is Everyone Doing It? 10

Married or Single: Does It Make a Difference? 11

Young or Old: Does It Make a Difference? 12

There's More Than One Reason to Have Sex 13

2 Sexpectations: Understanding Your Sexual Beliefs 17

Staking Your Claim on Sexual Pleasure 18

Remembering Your Sexual Influences 19

Myths About Sex 21

Your Attitude Adjustment 22

Talking About Your Sexual Past 23

3 Sex with (or Without) Love 27

This Thing Called Love 27

When and How to Express Your Love 29

From Attraction to Love and Sex 31

Does Love Affect Sex? 31

Monogamy 33

Casual Sex and One Night Stands 34

When Is the Timing Right? 35

4 Sexual Compatibility 37

Finding Someone Who Turns You On 37

What Makes Good Sex? 39

What Do You Want from Your Sex Life? 41

Compatibility Checklist 41

Can You Create Lust and Sexual Compatibility? 43

What Do You Find Sexy? 43

5 Talking About and Initiating Sex 45

Sex Topics 45

How to Talk About Sex 46

Talking (or Not) to Initiate Sex 48

Saying "Maybe" 49

Why "No" Must Mean "No" 49

What If Only One of You Wants Sex? 50

Finding Time for Sex 52

Part 2: Secrets from Below the Belt 55

6 Mirror, Mirror on the Wall 57

Am I the Only One Who Hates My Body? 58

Do You Need to Improve the Way You Feel About Your Body? 59

What Do You Dislike About Your Body? 61

Getting Comfortable Getting Nude 62

Getting Comfortable with Your Body During Sex 64

More Steps to a Better Body Image 65

Sexy Is As Sexy Does 67

7 His Private Parts 69

Male Sex Organs: It's What's Inside That Counts 69

The Testes 70

The Scrotum 71

The Epididymis 71

The Vas Deferens 71

The Seminal Vesicles 71

The Prostate Gland 72

The Cowper's Glands 72

Penis Power 72

The Glans 72

The Foreskin 73

The Frenulum 73

Why "Boner" Is a Misnomer 74

The What's What of Sperm and Semen 74

The Heads and Tails of Sperm 75

How Much Sperm Is in Semen? 75

Ejaculation and Orgasm 76

Surprise! It's Not About Size 77

8 Her Secret Garden 79

Female Sex Organs: What's Going on Down There? 80

The Ovaries 80

The Fallopian Tubes 81

The Uterus 81

The Cervix 82

Vagina Is for Lovers 82

The Urinary Opening and Vaginal Opening 82

The Hymen 83

The Vulva 83

The Clitoris 85

"G" Marks the Spot 85

Female Ejaculation 86

These Are Two of Her Favorite Things: Breasts 86

Oh, Baby! 88

Blood, Sweat, and Tears 89

Blood, Sweat, and ... Orgasm 90

PMS - The Storm Before the Calm 90

Feminine Hygiene: Say Yes to the Shower and No to the Douche 91

9 It's a Turn-On: Your Sexual Response 93

Here Comes That Loving Feeling 94

Desire 94

Arousal 95

Plateau 95

Orgasm 96

Resolution 96

The Big "O" 97

Female Orgasms 97

Male Orgasms 98

Multiple Orgasms - The More the Merrier? 99

Simultaneous Orgasms - Timing Isn't Everything 99

Orgasm Myths 100

Faking It 100

10 Master of Your Domain 103

Mmmmm Is for Masturbation 104

Health Benefits of Masturbation 105

Who Does It and How Much? 105

Different Strokes for Different Folks 107

Hands-On Experience 109

Do You Know What You Like? 110

Touch Me, Touch You 112

Improving Your Sex Life Through Masturbation 113

Working Out Your Love Muscles 113

Part 3: Fantastic Foreplay 117

11 The Seduction 119

What Is Foreplay? 119

Get into the Mood 120

Transform Your Home into a Love Nest 121

Creating a Sensuous Feast 123

Saying Sexy, Subtle Things 125

Giving Affection 126

A Kiss Is Just a Kiss ... or Is It? 126

Warming Up 127

Mouth to Mouth 127

The French Kiss 128

Coming Up for Air 129

Dressing to Turn on Your Lover 129

Strip It, Strip It Good 130

12 Reach Out and Touch Someone 133

What Are Your Erogenous Zones? 134

How to Give a Sensual Massage 135

Lathering Up in the Shower or Bath 136

How to Give Him a Good Orgasm with Your Hand 138

How to Bring Her to Orgasm with Your Hand 140

Mutual Masturbation: Would You Like a Hand with That? 142

More Ways to Keep in Touch 144

13 Mouthing Off 145

Why Oral Sex Is Amazing 146

What to Do If You Have Inhibitions About Oral Sex 146

Lick It, Lick It Good 148

Put Your Mouth Around That 151

Spit or Swallow? 154

Safer Oral Sex 156

More Oral Sex Variations 156

Lying Down, Standing, Sitting Up, and Squatting 156

Sixty-Nine Is So Fine 157

Exotic Locations 157

Hot and Cold Sensations 158

Playing with Food 158

Using Sex Toys During Oral Sex 158

Oral-Anal Contact 159

All-over Oral Pleasure 159

Part 4: Positions and Playtime 163

14 Sexual Positions 165

Man-on-Top 166

Woman-on-Top 168

Sex from Behind 169

Side-by-Side 170

Sitting 171

Standing 172

Strange Names for Sexy Positions 174

Scissors 174

The Crab 175

The Snake 175

The Rabbit 176

The Wheelbarrow 177

Anal Sex 178

15 Pillow Talk 181

Orgasms After Intercourse 182

Aftercare 182

What If You Want to Fall Asleep? 184

What's There to Talk About? 184

Encore! Encore! 185

Sex on the Run 186

Creative Afterplay Activities 186

16 Variety Is the Spice of Sex 189

All the Right Moves 190

Push It, Push It Real Good 190

Body Double 191

Prop to It! 192

Incredible Edibles 192

Wet and Wild 193

Paint-by-Touch 194

Soft Touches and Tickles 194

Timing Is Everything 194

The Quickie 194

The Sex Weekend 195

Rocking 'Round the Clock 195

Sex in Dreamland 196

Touch Me in the Morning 196

Lunch Box Special 196

Open House 197

Bathroom Bawdiness 197

Now You're Cooking 197

Eating In 198

Loving in the Living Room 198

Stairway to Heaven 198

Attic Antics 198

Basement Basics 199

Pull On In 199

No Vacancies 199

Sex in the Great Outdoors 200

Backyard Parties 200

Woody the Wood Pecker 200

Mountain Highs 201

Sand, Surf, and Sensuality 201

Playing Around on the Playground 202

Jump in the Deep End 202

Hot Stuff in the Hot Tub 202

A Bird's Eye View 202

When Intimate Isn't Necessarily Private 203

Going Up, Going Down 203

What a Way to Make a Living 204

School Spirit 204

Let's Get Physical 204

Sex on the Move 205

Frequent Flyer's Smiles 205

You Drove Me to It 205

Staying on Track 206

Taxi Trysts 206

Hop on the Harley 206

Part 5: Sexual Adventures 209

17 Imagine That! Your Sexual Fantasies 211

In Your Dreams! 212

Tonight's Top 10 List 214

Sharing Your Fantasies 219

When Fantasy Becomes Reality 221

Fun with Fantasies 222

18 Sexy Sights and Sounds 225

Aural Sex 226

Call of the Wild 228

Nude Pictures 229

Sexy Stories 230

Porn Flicks 231

Renting 232

Making Your Own 233

Byte Me and Suck My Hard Drive 234

Sex Sites: Chasing the Links 234

Sex Chats: The Sound of One Hand Typing 236

19 What Would Barbie Think? Fun with Sex Toys 239

Is That a Dildo in Your Pocket or Are You Just Glad to See Me? 240

Vibrators: Getting a Buzz On 242

And There's More! 244

I Like That, Butt This Feels Great! 244

Ancient Chinese Secret? 245

Toys for Boys 246

Blown Up or Tied Up 247

Do-It-Yourself Sex Toys 247

Lovin', Not Druggin' 248

20 Swingers and Dominants and Men in Skirts, Oh My! 251

Role Playing: Make-Believe and Make Out 252

Crossdressing: What's Under That Skirt? 253

Fetishes: May I Touch Your Feet? 256

Group Sex: All Together Now 257

S/M: Taking the Blindfold Off 260

Can Alternative Sex Go Too Far? 264

21 Tantric Sex: The Big Om 267

What Is Tantra? 268

Is Tantra for You? 268

The Tantric Way 269

Breathing in Harmony 269

How You Balance Each Other 270

Beginning Tantric Sex 270

Riding the Wave 272

Tantric Sexual Positions 273

Lotus Sex Positions 273

Clasping Position 274

Cupped Position 274

The Full-Body Orgasm 274

Withholding Ejaculation 275

How Tantra Can Improve Your Sex Life 277

Part 6: Unique Sexual Issues 279

22 Happy to Be Gay 281

Labels Are for Cans 282

The Sexual Orientation Continuum 282

Bi the Way 284

Why Are People Gay? 286

Discovering and Accepting Homosexuality 287

Come Out, Come Out, Whoever You Are 288

Pride and Prejudice 290

So, What Exactly Do You Do in Bed? 291

23 Sex and Pregnancy: What Are You Doing for the Next Nine Months? 295

Changing Shape 296

Sex During Pregnancy 297

The Right Position at the Right Time 299

Sex Do's and Don'ts 300

More Ways to Enjoy Each Other 301

How Do Men Feel About Sex During Pregnancy? 301

Mother Lovin': Sex After the Baby 303

Physical Challenges 303

Emotional Challenges 304

Too Pooped to Pop? 305

Quality Time 305

24 Experience Counts: Sex and Aging 307

Women and Aging 308

Her Good Old Body 308

The Change of Life 309

Male Issues About Sex and Aging 310

You Can't Keep a Good (Old) Man Down 311

Does My Hair Look Better If I Part It This Way? 312

Health and Sex for Aging Men and Women 312

Men and Women Are Using It, Not Losing It 314

Part 7: To Your Sexual Health 317

25 Get in Control: Birth Control 319

Asking Your Partner to Choose and Use 319

Are There Ever "Safe" Times of the Month? 320

Choosing Birth Control 321

It's a Hormonal Thing 321

Birth Control Pills 322

Norplant 323

Depo-Provera: The Birth Control Shot 323

Intrauterine Device (IUD) 324

Putting Up Barriers 325

His Condom 325

Her Condom 328

Vaginal Spermicides 328

Diaphragms and Cervical Caps 329

More Methods for Consideration 329

Sterilization 329

Fertility Awareness Methods (FAMs) 330

Abstinence 331

Which Method Is Best for You? 331

When All Else Fails, You Still Have Options 332

The Morning After Pill 332

RU486 333

Abortion 333

Adoption 334

26 Better Safer Than Sorry 335

Talking About Safer Sex 336

How to Talk About STDs 336

What If You Know You Have an STD ? 337

The ABC of STD s 337

Chlamydia 338

Herpes 338

Genital Warts (HPV) 339

Gonorrhea 339

Syphilis 339

Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) 340

Urinary Tract Infection 340

Vaginitis 340

Crabs 341

Internal Parasites 341

Hepatitis B 342

Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) and Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome (AIDS) 342

What Are Your Symptoms? 344

Checking for STDs 344

Testing for HIV 345

Condoms and Safer Sex 346

27 Take a Good Look - These Exams Save Lives 347

Your Healthy Breasts 348

How to Perform a Breast Self-Exam (BSE) 348

What If You Find a Lump? 350

It Only Comes Once a Year: The Gynecological Exam 350

Men and Sexual Health 353

The Testicular Self-Exam: You've Got Balls, Check 'Em Out 353

Just Relax, It's the Prostate Exam 354

28 Overcoming Sexual Problems 357

Not in the Mood: Lack of Desire 358

Waiting for the O: Women Who Have Never Had an Orgasm 359

Intercourse Without Orgasms 362

Premature Ejaculation 362

5, 6, 7, 8 - Now's the Time to Stop and Wait 363

Please Me, Squeeze Me 364

When It's Hard to Get Hard 365

Viagra: The Great Blue Hope? 366

Pump It Up 367

Painful Intercourse 367

Vaginismus 368

Male and Female Performance Anxiety 368

Sex Therapy: Getting Professional Help 369

What Happens in Sex Therapy? 369

Sensate Focus 370

What Is a "Sex Surrogate"? 370

Choosing a Sex Therapist 371

Appendices

A Amazing Sex from A to Z 373

B Get in Touch with Your Sexuality 385

Index 389